I am disappointed to say that lately I have found myself caving to societal pressure and not being who I really am. Because my dad is running for Congress, I am meeting and greeting lots of new people. Because I am young, the question inevitably comes up "So are you in school or did you graduate?" I say, "Yes, I graduated from UVA." They say, "So, what do you DO?" I say, "I stay at home with our baby." Often times, they don't really know what to say so they just go "Oh...that's nice." And then I feel obligated to say, "But I might go back to work when they're older."
Ugh...why do I say that???
I always leave the conversation mad at myself that I didn't stick to my guns! I do not ever intend on going back to work (unless the Lord has other plans). I firmly believe in staying home to train, educate and love my children and serve my husband full-time. I firmly believe there is immeasurable value in a woman working in the home to create a warm, loving place for her family to be. I firmly believe I do so much more than "stay at home with my baby". That does conjure up the image of staying in my pjs all day with soap opera re-runs on. I want to say to them, "I work full-time in my home creating a place of spiritual, emotional and physical refreshment and rest for my family. This includes cooking nutritious meals, making beds, changing sheets, cleaning, doing laundry, keeping our home in order, caring for our child, training our child, scheduling appointments, maintaining our belongings and keeping our home a place centered on Jesus."
What most moms do is SO much more than "just stay at home". I find myself increasingly dissatisfied with that term. Another option is "home-manager" which I think is better actually but it sounds kind of silly in conversation.
Do you feel like you have to justify your choice to be a home-maker? Do you find it hard to be who you are as a wife and mother in our society?