UPDATE: I'm getting some really interesting feedback from you guys via the blog and email. A couple of you say you have hard-core liberal parents and were spanked. I'm willing to wave the white flag and say my use of the word "liberal" may not have been the best choice. I guess I should have said something like your "permissive parenting agenda" It's possible my experience is not widespread reality. Just wanted you guys to know that :)
Metro Marta that is (if you don't know what Metro Marta means...it's my feisty alter-ego)...I read an article on Babycenter.com that just put me over the edge today. I have been on babycenter.com since I got pregnant with Parks and it has been a great resource, but I have had enough of the liberal bias in their articles. It's more than I can take at this point. I got so fired up after reading this article that I sent a letter to the editor. Here is what I wrote:
To Whom It May Concern: I have been a frequent visitor to Babycenter.com since my son was born 17 months ago. I am also a college graduate, educated woman who works part-time. I used to think your site was a great resource for mom's but the more I read here, I am very disturbed by a clear, liberal agenda in childrearing.
I was reading an article about 17 month old titled "Feeling Negative" today and here is an excerpt:
"You may also notice that your child occasionally but very deliberately disobeys your orders. You say, "Please stay away from that vase," and your toddler looks right at you, reaches out, and touches the vase, or plucks a flower from it. You know he got your message, so rather than let the defiance become a big deal, experts say to simply ignore it whenever possible. In fact, it's important to try to avoid a confrontation with every little issue."
I think this is horrible advice to parents. I absolutely believe in balance in discipline but to tell parents to ignore blatant defiance in their toddlers is ridiculous. Toddlers test limits, that's what they do and it's the job of the parent to set those limits and show the child who is boss. Our society is suffering from a lack of parental discipline and training and it's advice like this that causes it!
I am also disturbed about the negative articles about spanking on your site. I am a parent who spanks and I am offended by your portrayal of spanking. I also think it's complete hogwash that children who are spanked learn that hitting is OK. Please, I was spanked as a child and I grew up perfectly fine and never thought hitting was OK.
I am disappointed and saddened really by the advice you are giving young moms out there today. You do not provide a fair and balanced look at both sides of discipline you promote an ideology that scorns true discipline and training of children. I am sick of reading an article that I think will be helpful only to find your liberal agenda woven throughout it. There are lots of mom's like myself who still believe that good old-fashioned discipline produces good kids. I'm sorry you
can't see the value in the way we raise our kids.
Va. Beach, VA
What do you guys think?? I know it's been forever, does anyone still read my blog??