Sunday, September 5, 2010

The Back-Up Plan

Jackson and I watched this movie this weekend. I have to say, it really disturbed me. Overall, it was kind of a cheesy, predictable plot but that isn't what bothered me. What bothered me was the message it had to say about children.

The opening scene starts with J.Lo getting artificially inseminated because she is getting older and hasn't found "the one" and she wants a baby. She then goes over to her friend's house. Her friend has 4 kids and proceeds to tell J.Lo how terrible they are and how they, quote "ruined her life". She finishes her rant by saying, "I hate them".

Stop right there. Jackson and I both looked at each other. Yeah, we know, it's just a stupid movie but we couldn't help at think of the message our society is sending! I couldn't believe that the writers actually had this character say she hated her children. I was floored.

Listen, I'm in one of the most demanding phases of parenting as it gets and yes, some days it's really hard and yes, some days I live for 5:30 when Jackson comes home to help me but I would never, never think or say that Parks ruined my life or that I hate him. Quite the contrary! He has blessed me, enhanced our life in so many ways and I love him with an unrelenting love.

It's discouraging to me that our society says, children ruin your life, they are burdens, they are just little monsters who have the audacity to inconvenience your lifestyle, goals and priorities. That is a far, far cry from what Scripture teaches about children.

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one's youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate. Psalm 127:3-5 ESV

Jesus loved children (Matthew 18, Mark 10). If we are to be conformed into the image of Christ, part of that is loving what he loves. He loves children, he doesn't see them as burdens. To some this may come more naturally than others, but I believe as Christians we don't get the option of saying, "I'm just not really into kids." That's a cop out. I'm saying this in truth and love. I have to encourage myself with what Scripture says about children when times get hard, and believe I've had my share of hard moments. I just want to encourage whoever reads this to pray for a Godly heart and attitude towards our kids and if you don't yet have kids, pray for God to cultivate a love for children in your heart. Be a light in your own world to people who don't share God's precious view of children.


Laura F. said...

I have been really wanting to see this movie but not sure about it now!

Though that woman who hates her kids is not as rare of a mother as she should be. I can not even begin to understand how someone can feel that way. Even if they do not have a relationship with the Lord. The craziest part is the people who feel that way normally have more than 1 or 2 kids. If they are so terrible STOP having children!!!!

I am so madly in love with Tommi. She is my world. Yes she is a normal toddler who gets under my skin but I would NEVER say she ruined my life or I hate her. I agree with you and would say she is blessed my life a million times more. She gives me a taste of the love the Lord has for me! And I wouldn't trade even the worst days for a day with out her!

I think the whole "back-up plan" thing of a baby with out a father is dumb in itself. But that is a whole different subject!

Thanks for the movie review. I love reading your input and Biblical support of your ideas!

Megan said...

I agree. It's really similar to Hollywoods view of marriage as well. Movies and TV are always painting marriage as a boring, negative relationship that should be avoided at all costs, when really its the best gift God has given us!

Jaime said...

Preach it Siesta! Amen. Gotta love those youngins'!