Sunday, September 5, 2010
The Back-Up Plan
Jackson and I watched this movie this weekend. I have to say, it really disturbed me. Overall, it was kind of a cheesy, predictable plot but that isn't what bothered me. What bothered me was the message it had to say about children.
The opening scene starts with J.Lo getting artificially inseminated because she is getting older and hasn't found "the one" and she wants a baby. She then goes over to her friend's house. Her friend has 4 kids and proceeds to tell J.Lo how terrible they are and how they, quote "ruined her life". She finishes her rant by saying, "I hate them".
Stop right there. Jackson and I both looked at each other. Yeah, we know, it's just a stupid movie but we couldn't help at think of the message our society is sending! I couldn't believe that the writers actually had this character say she hated her children. I was floored.
Listen, I'm in one of the most demanding phases of parenting as it gets and yes, some days it's really hard and yes, some days I live for 5:30 when Jackson comes home to help me but I would never, never think or say that Parks ruined my life or that I hate him. Quite the contrary! He has blessed me, enhanced our life in so many ways and I love him with an unrelenting love.
It's discouraging to me that our society says, children ruin your life, they are burdens, they are just little monsters who have the audacity to inconvenience your lifestyle, goals and priorities. That is a far, far cry from what Scripture teaches about children.
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one's youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate. Psalm 127:3-5 ESV
Jesus loved children (Matthew 18, Mark 10). If we are to be conformed into the image of Christ, part of that is loving what he loves. He loves children, he doesn't see them as burdens. To some this may come more naturally than others, but I believe as Christians we don't get the option of saying, "I'm just not really into kids." That's a cop out. I'm saying this in truth and love. I have to encourage myself with what Scripture says about children when times get hard, and believe I've had my share of hard moments. I just want to encourage whoever reads this to pray for a Godly heart and attitude towards our kids and if you don't yet have kids, pray for God to cultivate a love for children in your heart. Be a light in your own world to people who don't share God's precious view of children.